Internet Dating Faux Pas in “Happily Divorced”

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The fun new TV Land show featuring the star of the 1990s popular TV show, “The Nanny,” Fran Drescher, “Happily Divorced,” features a lot of the trials and tribulations of 21st century singles dating. This includes Online Dating both as a single woman and a single gay man wanting a romantic relationship.



In the recent “Happily Divorced” episode, “Someone Wants Me,” (Season 1, Episode 7) our romantic leads, Fran and Peter, both post profiles at internet dating sites. Fran tells the truth. Peter lies about his age in his profile. And quelle surprise, Peter then doesn’t get a lot of interest and replies to his profile because his lying is pretty obvious.



Fran, on the other hand, being a visually beautiful single woman who tells the truth in her dating profile, gets a lot of interest from single guys and goes on a number of first dates.



Here’s the problem.



In the tv show episode, “Happily Divorced” has her online dating site sourced dates picking her up at her house and dropping her off at the door to her home.



Both of these are completely Internet Dating Faux Pas.



Well really, they are more than Faux Pas. These are Safety and Security Massive Mistakes when it's the world of internet dating we're talking about.



When you are pursuing love online, do not give out your home address to a complete stranger you’ve met at an Internet Dating site or Social Networking site. Behave with safety and self-valuing caution.



Until you and your date are better acquainted, keep your personal contact information and location private. For each person, precisely how long that will take will vary. Some single women will comfortable sharing their home address for the man to pick them up for the next date at their house after just the first date. Other singles won’t feel that level of safety, security, and comfort until after 2 or 3 dates when a bit more personal background information has been shared and established.



There is no precise hard and fast rule to follow about When To give out home information. The only hard and fast rule about Home Address Information Sharing is certainly Do Not Share Your Home Address before the first date.



I mention these things in conjunction with the tv show, “Happily Divorced,” because there are a lot singles just re-entering the dating world again after a few years of being out the running.



Perhaps they were in a long term relationship for a few years.



Perhaps they are now Dating Again After Divorce.



And we all read books and watch tv shows and movies and glean current dating manners and expectations from those. Even though we know the tv show is not “real life,” still, our subconscious mind will often file that information away in the back of our mind sortah half thinking that what we saw on the tv show is ok and even socially expected of singles now. So it’s important for dating and relationship experts to point out the faulty message so you don’t believe that detail about what singles are doing now.



Your safety and security habits practice your appropriately valuing yourself and your life. You deserve to be treated well. Be sure that you’re the first to do so!



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Happy Dating and Relationships,



April Braswell

Dating and Relationship Expert

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Jennifer Lopez Sex Tape Scandal – Lessons for Singles and Married Couples

By April Braswell, Dating Expert and Online Dating Coach

The current Jennifer Lopez Sex Tape Scandal which has the world abuzz provides a tremendous lesson for both dating singles and married couples.

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The sex tape scandal involves Lopez’s honeymoon antics with her first husband, Ojani Nao. Jennifer Lopez has been married 3 times and is presently married to Marc Anthony with whom she has fraternal twin children.

Marriages may come and go, your divorced spouse is forever.

For singles, remember that the person you are dating now, in evolutionary thinking, will be in the community tribe in your area after you break up should you not marry each other. Whatever you say, whatever you do, every photo you take together, will live on in memory and with all of the wonderful electronics toys out there, might have been captured and recorded for posterity. And others in your tribe could hear about it on some level.

Men are highly visually stimulated and are often requesting to photograph or video record intimate moments and intimate moments with their partners. Just know that if you agree, that image is digitally captured and stored on your smart phone or computer. And also know that when it is transferred from mobile device to computer, it goes over the internet. Those images are at risk for being hacked, captured and shared. This can come back to bite you either socially within your community. It could end up in adult oriented groups at MySpace. It could go up on Twitter or someone’s page at Facebook.

For marrieds, you may be darlingly romantically in-love with your spouse or life partner now. However, divorce does end close to 50% of marriages, which does not even include tracking the ending of life partner non-marriage relationships. Many relationships over the years do indeed end. Some amicably and some not so amicably.

Your ex-wife or ex-husband will be your former spouse for the rest of your life. You will have that relationship for many years to come. Be careful.

Protecting Your Children: While talking about intimate topics is something every parent wants to do with their children, having that conversation should be well thought out and planned.

Prenuptial Agreement: If you two agreed to the photo taking and video recording of any of your intimate moments, just remember, these will all be part of the separation and divorce agreement. You might want to include this as a topic in your prenuptial agreement early on while you are feeling amicable and adult in your communications. Least you think, “Oh that could never happen to me, we’re in love,” just remember people do stupid and foolish things while aroused with jealousy or anger which they would not do while behaving rationally and more emotionally calm.

Do be careful, and most of all, protect yourself.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

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Dating Expert Tips on Phone Etiquette for Online Dating

Dating Expert Tips on Phone Etiquette for Online Dating

by April Braswell, Dating and Relationship Expert

All the Etiquette books out there, I think of wonderful experts like Emily Post and Miss Manners, provide tips, guidelines, and suggestions about how to engage with people socially.

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One topic for etiquette for Dating is: Phone Etiquette for Online Dating

What are the phone rules and guidelines to use when you are contacting someone you have just “met” via an online dating site? When your prospective date gives you their phone number, are there some common courtesy and social etiquette guidelines which singles should keep in mind? And what about texting? Maybe you don’t phone after a certain hour of night, however, it’s just a text message, right?

I have observed that this is something which in particular the Millenials my not yet even know about. And some of the GenY and GenX folks are ok about, but generally weak. I never hear complaints or comments about this from the Baby Boomers, so it seems the Boomer Generation got inculcated on Phone Etiquette guidelines, certainly in relation to work and their career. So they are already strong in this.

How Late Is Too Late to Phone a New Contact You Met Online?

As a general guideline, don’t phone someone you do not know very well after 9 pm. That is the super safe, gracious, well-mannered guideline. However, we are all so very busy these days. Perhaps you wanted to phone your new contact you met online at the end of your day when you are relaxed, not frazzled and about to do 5 other chores and tasks, after the dishes are washed and put away, and the pots and pans are scrubbed and clean. And oh my, where did the evening go? It’s 9:30 pm! Couldn’t I just phone them now? 9:30 pm really is fine as well. While the “proper” guideline is 9 pm, by which you cannot go wrong. However, with someone of the current age, phoning up until about 9:50 is pretty much fine. Think in terms of being off the phone before 10 pm. So to initiate a phone call at 9:45 pm or 9:50 pm is still good. Just know that if you phone after 9:30 pm, you might risk disturbing someone’s sleep who is an early riser. You run that risk with phone a little later at night.

If you phone after 10 pm, you border on being rude. After 10:30 pm is rude with a new person/stranger. Unless they told you in an email, “It’s ok to phone as late at 11 pm….” Otherwise, just refrain from calling that late until you have met, are better acquainted and know each other a bit.

Some of the Millenials and GenX folks who grew up with MySpace and have been Facebook friends with thousands since middle school, have been inculcated to have a very casual approach to their social life. This is both kinda great and kinda a problem. It’s great not to be restricted by too many formalities and to create connection and relationships with others in your peer group and beyond all around the world. I mean, that’s cool, right? However, sometimes when we are being very casual in our conversations with someone who is, yes, still, even though you “feel” you know them from the Social Networking and Online Dating site, a stranger. Asking very personal questions of a stranger when you first talk on the phone or first meet in person for a First Date, is rude. It also shows poorly on you that you have a weakness in conversational skills.

How Late Is Too Late to Text a New Contact You Met Online?

Much like the guidelines for phoning, so follows the guideline for sending text messages. However, the text message, you might be feeling, really isn’t the same as a phone call. You’re right. A text message you can ignore more readily than someone phoning you. However, something which not everyone thinks of is, many people use their cell phone (”mobile” if you’re in the UK or the EU) as their alarm clock. So, it is right by their head on the bedside table. And here you are thinking of something quick you just wanted to say to them and it is 11:45 pm, 12:30 am, 12:45 am… or later. And you send your text message over… And “buzz, buzz, buzz.” Their phone is vibrating or text message ringing next to them while they are sleeping. And it wakes them up.

Not only is that inadvertently rude. You just disturbed their sleep. They are now feeling at least irritated by you, and think you lack many of the social graces. And this is all before they have actually met you. Your anchor in their emotional nonconscious mind is with the irritation of being awoken in the middle of the night. Your anchor is: irritation. That is not what you want to trigger at the very beginning.

Cell Phone Text Spam

While I am on the topic of text messaging, many people collect wonderful inspirational quotes or favorite Bible verses. These are a wonderful thing to intersperse into your Tweetstream at Twitter or in your update box at Facebook or MySpace. However, do not start sending these out on a daily basis to your new Prospective Dates who have graciously given you their phone number. It’s spamming. They gave you their phone number to arrange to meet for a First Date. Use it only for that purpose. They are not your new best friend. Nor are they a subscriber to your personal newsletter. Let them choose to connect and follow you at the Social Networking sites only after you two have met and established a level of acquaintance after a few dates before you do.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

Online Dating Coach and Preparing for LOVE!

Online Dating Coach Advice about Preparing for LOVE!

In my work as an Online Dating Coach and Romantic Relationship Coach and inculcating for romance and romantic sex relationships, some of the work which I most recommend for my clients is to first start with their communication and personal magnetism skill set.

Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism

Irresistible Attraction is about becoming our most attractive in our behavior and interactions with others. The internationally knowned author of the best-seller, The Psychology of Persuasion, Influence and Persuasion master Kevin Hogan coauthored this very approachable book with Mary Lee Labay.

I'm kind of laughing here. Personally, whenever I think of this book, I think of it as like, Personal Magnetism and Attractiveness for the Rest of Us. Not quite the guide for idiots or dummies, but still!

Ok, so you are not actually a sought after celebrity movie star, super model or NFL star quarterback? So, you are not a 10 even a 9. Maybe you are a 7, a 6, or even a 4. In Irresistible Attraction, the authors teach you and provide quite a number of examples of behaviors and communications to have with others to increase your attractiveness quotient and to be more successful in dating.

And indeed, the more successful we are in dating, the greater our chances of finding love and creating a really great romantic relationship. I highly recommend this book to my clients to read and practice before heading out on Date0. It will really help you in your conversations to increase your attractiveness to others. And in romance, we all want to be more magnetically attractive, don't we? In which case, yup, go buy this book now.

All the best,

April Braswell

Online Dating Expert, Romantic Relationship Coach, Romance Coaching

Online Dating Sites Review, Internet Dating Sites Guide

Dating Coach Provides Online Dating Sites Review

Hi! As a Dating and Relationship Coach in the 21st century, men and women frequently ask me about ways to leverage Online Dating and want to know, "April, what're the BEST Online Dating Sites?"

Indeed, which Internet Dating Sites are the best?


Well, the answer to the pressing question DEPENDS. It depends on what're YOU looking for in Looking for Love Online?

do you want to meet singles in Canada? Single Parents in the UK? are you Gay or Lesbian looking for singles wanting a life partner relationship? Or are you a single just wanting to spice up your sex life for right now?

The answer depends on the question I always first ask my Dating, Romance, and Relationship Coaching Clients. What do YOU want?

To meet that huge variety of needs, indeed, I've been gathering an Internet Dating Sites Review, you might say, and Internet Dating Sites Guide.

So, when YOU answer that question for yourself, well, there are so many good sites available, you'll have several to choose from!

Have fun and play safe!

All the best,

April Braswell